
I was having a conversation with someone yesterday who was telling me about his business/career over the last 5 years and he said this about mid way through his story, "that is when I should have quit".
That is a hard thing for most of us to say. We are conditioned in our culture to win, to succeed, to live a life of victory and to have it all!
So, how do we deal with failure and when do we fail? I don't have all the answers and now my new found friend is digging his way out of a hole and I am not sure I offered a lot of comfort.
There are no easy answers but there are lots of questions. Should you follow your dreams? I believe absolutely! But I also think you should evaluate your strengths and weaknesses and have a plan before you venture out into the great unknown. That doesn't sound very exciting, glamorous, or romantic I know. But as the old adage says:
fail to plan then plan to fail
Seven Reasons You Might Fail - You run out of time (and quit).
- You run out of money (and quit).
- You get scared (and quit).
- You’re not serious about it (and quit).
- You lose interest or enthusiasm or settle for being mediocre (and quit).
- You focus on the short term instead of the long (and quit when the short term gets too hard).
- You pick the wrong thing at which to be the best in the world (because you don’t have the talent).
By “you,” I mean your team, your company, or just plain you, the jobseeker, employee, or entrepreneur. The important thing to remember about these seven things is that you can plan for them. You can know before you start whether or not you have the resources and the will to get to the end. Most of the time, if you fail, it’s either because you planned wrong or because you gave up before you reached your goal. (there is no crime in admitting this by the way but it may bruise your ego)
Even worse than quitting in the first six cases: is not quitting.
Settling. Sticking with it but not succeeding.
Is it possible that you’re just not good enough? That you (or your team) just don’t have enough talent to be the best in the world? Sure, it’s possible. In fact, if your chosen area is the cello, or speed skating, then I might even say it’s probable. (thanks to Seth Godin for input....check out his book The Dip on this subject)
I wish I had a miracle cure for this dilemma but here are some practical things that always work; pray and ask God to help you, seek wisdom from others, plan, research others who have succeeded in what you are pursuing, give your best, and also realize that success may not look exactly what you thought it would look like.......it might even be better!
Proverbs 2:6-8 God gives out Wisdom free, is plainspoken in Knowledge and Understanding. He's a rich mine of Common Sense for those who live well, a personal bodyguard to the candid and sincere. He keeps his eye on all who live honestly, and pays special attention to his loyally committed ones.
(The Message)